Why it is important to believe in yourself

Advice

Believing in yourself is so important and I never really realised that until recently when I realised that my self doubt was getting in the way of achieving my goals and aspirations. Being your biggest critic can be a good thing when you want to improve yourself however it can make you doubt yourself and discourage you away from your ambitions. I realised I was beginning to let a fear of failure get in the way of moving forward.
Its strange because my parents would often tell me how confident and presumptuous I would be as a child, that I would say I could do everything – hurdles? Yep I could do that. Learn the piano? Easy.
Recently its been the complete opposite.
So after this epiphany, I am going to start believing in myself again. My own self doubt can no longer be the wall between me and my goals.

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Self belief is the most important thing ‘If you don’t believe in yourself no one else is going to believe in you’. There is not a single person who has succeeded in their aspirations who haven’t believed in themselves. With each set back it is their self belief that brings them over that hurdle and get back up again. Don’t believe me? Here are a handful of celebrities stories: (this is all information I found online, in other posts and in interviews)

Ed Sheeran is one example. He wasn’t the singer he is now when he was younger but he believed he could do better and had the passion for music that he became the artist he is today. He was also homeless for a while and was busking on the street but continued to believe that one day his aspirations and dreams would be a reality.

I recently watched an interview with Taron Egerton about how if he hadn’t believed in himself he wouldn’t be an actor. He didn’t get into drama school the first time round but this didn’t knock him back, he still believed he could be an actor and tried out the second year. And GUESS WHAT? He got in. His film “Eddie the eagle” also seems to focus on the topic of believing in yourself and proving everyone wrong. There are many other films, too, that focus ambiguously on self belief such as La La Land and Bridget Jones to name a few.

More Celebrities who believed in themselves and never gave up including J K Rowling and Emily Blunt:

https://www.themuse.com/advice/9-famous-people-who-will-inspire-you-to-never-give-up

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Saying I will start believing in myself is one thing but actually believing in myself is much more difficult. So I’ve looked up a few ways that can help you to stop self-doubting and helping you to believe in yourself.

  1. One way is to write down all of you achievements. Write down everything from the smallest accomplishments to the larger ones.

2. To talk to yourself like you have won, like you are the best, to say to yourself all the time that ‘you are going to succeed’ ‘you are the best’ etc. The same goes if you have issues with loving yourself to say stuff like ‘I look beautiful’ ‘I look great today’ etc.

3. Create a vision board; put everything on it that you want to achieve, everything that you want your life to be like and use it as a constant reminder that that is what you are going to achieve and the you can achieve that. One way to do this online is through Pinterest, you could pin photos of things that inspire you from motivational quotes to photos of places you want to travel to things you want to be able to achieve.

4. People can stop believing in them selves when they start comparing themselves to others. I am guilty of doing this sometimes but then I have to remind myself that my achievements are personal to me and cannot be compared to someone else’s. ‘IntheFrow’ has done a really lovely post about why it’s not worth comparing yourself that you can read here.

For some more ways to believe in yourself visit these useful posts:

http://jackcanfield.com/blog/how-to-believe-in-yourself/ 

https://www.wikihow.com/Believe-in-Yourself

A few quotes to think about:

“Doubt kills more dreams than Failure ever will”

“Be fearless when it comes to life and Be Careless when it comes to what people say and think about you’

“Prove them wrong”

“I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself” – Emma Stone

“the future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams” – Eleanor Roosevelt

‘Believe you can and you’re halfway there’

Thank you for reading! I really hope that this post has helped you in same way, please remember that you can do anything you set your mind to, believe you can and you will be able to achieve it. Never let self doubt had you captive, believe in yourself and break free from your own limitations. Dare to be you. Believe in you.

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The dreaded exam season

Advice, Lifestyle, Uncategorized

It’s April and teachers are counting down the days till your first exam currently it’s standing at 4 weeks to go. Our school even provides us with an Easter break revision goal of 50 hours… ahhhh help!

Here are a couple of ways that I motivate myself to revise and how I do it but there are many days I don’t stick to schedule- let’s face it revision is boring and a chore.

1. Motivation 


Before I revise I always have the vision of why I have to do this revision. For me it’s to have the grades to be able to do my dream job of becoming a vet, so for you it could be a career plan your thinking of or maybe if you haven’t got a job in mind, the goal is just to not close the gates on any opportunities in your future. 

The other thing I keep in mind is the long summer after!y friends and I have made sure to fill the summer with as many plans as possible and we always talk about how amazing it will be.

I also keep a study schedule of what I’m going to study each day; I keep this specific so I know exactly what I need to do. For example; say I was studying Romeo and Juliet I would also write down ‘make mindmaps of the characters’. This helps me keep motivated because it’s really satisfying ticking all the sessions off when you’ve done them and it means I know what I have to do in advance.

Many people say new stationary helps them to stay motivated which works for a lot of people but for me it doesn’t work that well a few highlighters and paper are all I actually need to use to revise.

I hope these tips help you stay motivated to revise for the dreaded exam season, if you have any other tips I would love to hear them! Just leave a comment below 

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Happy New Year!

Advice

2016 has been a great year despite the many losses of amazing celebrities. But now its time to welcome in a hopefully incredible 2017! as the saying goes; tomorrow is the first page of a 365 day book, write a good one!

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Photo taken in New York

Most of us make resolutions to make the year even better and to create an even better ‘you’ but we also are not likely to actually keep these resolutions and I am definitely guilty of this! So here are a few ways we can stick to our goals:

First, I am investing in a planner! This is probably something everyone does to be able to schedule and keep up with important plans throughout the year. But I particularly want to get a bigger planner this year that I will actually use so that I can manage my time more effectively. I have never been good at time management but with my exams in the summer of 2017, mapping out my time is going to be very important; I don’t want to be stressed out with the fact ‘I haven’t scheduled enough revision’ or ‘I haven’t written a blog post’ or any of the above. The planner I have got this year is the ‘gold marble diary’ on Oliver Bonus that I got in the sale (money saving may be a resolution haha) -which you can get here.

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Another resolution I’m going to try and achieve next year is to have fitness routine that I am actually going to stick to. I know that a lot of peoples’ goals are to ‘lose weight’ or ‘to drop a dress size’ and a lot of people don’t keep up with this goal by the time May rolls around, a way I’m going to try to actually stick to a routine as by scheduling when I will have time for a workout in my planner and by doing a form of exercise I  enjoy doing so i am more motivated. At the moment I do exercise but it’s more in occasional bursts rather than sticking to a routine so that I really feel the results of feeling healthier, stronger and more flexible. So I will do exercise such as yoga, dance cardio and cycling because this is what I enjoy whilst being challenging enough and potentially giving me the results I need. You can tick off those days that you’ve done any form of exercise in the yearly overview section of your planner, this way you can look back at the end and realise how much effort you are putting in and how much you can improve and weather you need to mix up your routine.

Also if one of your goals is to lose weight (although I am by no means a fitness expert) you need to break down that goal so that you know HOW you are going to achieve that goal. Break it down into you food plan; Are you having a balance diet? Are you eating too much etc. and plan out how you will improve your eating because that is an important part of achieving that goal. Than break it down into exercise; How much do you do now? How much time do you have to do exercise etc. Make sure you do research on those goals too so you can really achieve it and more.

I hope you all have an amazing 2017 and a new post will be up in the new year! I really want to work on my blog next year, what kind of posts do you want to see?

Happy New Year!!!!

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Photos taken with a GoPro and iPhone 7…

Link to Boxing Day blog here…

 

 

practice interviews?

Advice, Lifestyle

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if you live in the uk you will probably have to do a practice interview at some point, its not something all schools do but it was in hindsight a great experience so that you can get feedback and know what an interview is like before doing it ‘for real’. I know a lot of people (including myself) get anxious coming to to an interview even if it is ‘just a practice’. Here are my life lessons (haha) from having a practice interview and other advise I’ve been told from employers:

  1. first, breathe! if you’re anxious and this counts for any situation, breathing is always the best way to calm yourself down. For me if i know am overly nervous i know that i am more likely to go blank if they ask me a question and i won’t think clearly so breathing really helps to get out of that mindset.
  2. act confident, interviewers like to see that you turn up with a smile on your face, good posture, a firm handshake and seem like you know what you’re talking about.
  3. I speak really quickly so a definite tip to my future self is to take it a little slower next time!
  4. Have a career\ life goal in mind. The most my practice interviewer wanted to know was what I am planning to do with my life, that i can set goals for myself and how i am going to achieve those goals.
  5. If you a student really take all the opportunities you can, i know that there are so many people who come to having an interview and have nothing to say for what they had done at school and what responsibilities that had taken on. This could be work experience, volunteering, helping out the school in some way or generally getting involved in anything your interested in

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I am by no means an expert in career advise, i have only done a practice interview but this may help those who are about to have there interviews.

For our school we had to find a smart outfit to wear so all the boys wore suits and girls wore dresses or suits. It was a good experience as my interviewer gave me advise at the end and thoroughly went through my cv as to what was good and what i could add or remove.

what advise do you have for interviews?

have you ever had a bad interview experience?

10 things that make me happy

Advice, Favourites, Lifestyle

Happiness is so important to everyone, it is the natural objective everyone strives for; to simply be happy. Often it can be the simplest of things or activity, everyone has that different thing that makes them smile each day. After being inspired by Victoria’s (Inthefrow.com) latest blog post, Here i thought i would share the 10 things that make me happy.

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1. Art:

Seeing a beautiful piece of artwork or sculpture or something beautiful someone has made really inspires me or really getting the time to create something myself and creating something makes me so happy.

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This is my newest piece of work; painting just makes me feel so relaxed and I get really inspired by people. 

2. Candles and cozy days:

On a rainy day when I’ve got time for myself, my favourite thing to do is snuggle up in a warm blanket with a couple of candles burning. Not only does the smell make me feel relaxed but having the warm fuzzy glow adds to the cozy atmosphere which makes me feel comforted and content. Getting to wear those new pyjamas and that favourite cozy jumper just makes me feel so happy knowing that a lot of the jobs are done and that i can have time to myself maybe to watch a film or relax with a good book.

3. Bonfires

On a chilly evening which is all the time in England, having a bonfire with my family and friends makes me feel so happy. Im often sat with a hot mug of soup or hot chocolate wearing a cozy jumper having a good time, sat with the dogs, having heart to heart conversations about anything and everything.

4. Music /festivals

Im writing this as I just got back from Camp Bestival and I had the best time. I also went to Larmer Tree festival this year in which Tom Odell was playing, he was amazing and it had an incredible atmosphere. At Camp Bestival we were at the front singing and dancing along to Jess Glynn and budding musicians on the stage. Even whilst I’m doing homework at home I will listen to some good music and it kind of takes the stresses away and helps with motivation.

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This is me on the worlds biggest bouncy castle with my friends- had an amazing time and yes, I know, we did join all the 5 year olds haha!

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5. forest walks

Even in the rain getting time to clear my mind in the forest whilst walking my two dogs means I can clear my head and look at the beauty of nature around me. My pets make me feel happy too which is an added bonus.

6. New interior items

I’ve always loved moving my room around or creating something new for my room doing a bit of DIY or purchasing a new item. I love getting to see a look coming together and thinking of new ideas of how it will look; so getting that cozy blanket or new item and seeing it fit in with the rest of the scheme makes me happy.

7. Friends and family

These are the people who are always there for me. If I’m having a good or a bad day they are always the first people I want to share it with and they either share in my excitement or will help cheer me up. As I have already mentioned, I have just come back from a festival and that was with my family and close friends and it was great sharing these memories and inside jokes.

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8. A cuppa tea

hmmm…  a cup of tea when it gets a little chillier or when you get up in the morning or to relax is like a little piece of heaven. It means something for me to look forward to in the morning and just tastes good ; my favourites are english breakfast, rose lemonade and a new find- the best of both (normal with green tea).

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Enjoying a nice warm drink on a chilly evening at Camp Bestival!

9. Trying something new

Trying something new whether that means an activity like going on a zip wire and stepping out of my comfort zone or finding a lovely new eatery or shop makes me feel happy. A shop particularly if they have beautiful packaging! but indulging in food, clothes or an activity makes me feel happier and stepping outside of my comfort zone improves my self confidence too as it can bring a proud feeling.

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10. Fitness

After I’ve done a workout or done some yoga, gone for a bike ride etc… I feel so much happier and healthier. I no longer feel that wave grouchiness when I get up and feel ready to take on the day ahead. It improves confidence as I feel so much more alive and no longer like the zombie when I woke up. My recent favourite workout has been the sweaty betty bodybysimone dance cardio, it consists of 5 sections; warm up, cardio, upper body, lower body and cool down.

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After a good meditation and yoga session in the zen den!

What makes you happy?

please let me know what activities and little pleasures you like to indulge in that make you happy, everyones different and will find happiness in different things.

on another note…

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I died my hair lavender, what do you think?

 

Studying…

Advice, Lifestyle

As a student, studying seems to take up most of your time. Its so important to keep rehearsing and revising information so that you are more likely to remember it in your exam. There are many different methods of studying, some will work best for some people others revise better through other methods. Here are a couple of ways that work best for me:

First, the way I remember information best is simply going over your class notes or a textbook and highlighting all of the important information; the key words, key terms, important statistics or equations. Highlighting helps me visualise the information better.

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After that I will probably make a mind map. This also helps with visualising the information. It is the best way for me because I can imagine what the mind map looks like and find the information I need in the exam that way, It gives a structure to the information as well which helps with understanding.

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An alternative is using cue cards. I mostly write these for key words or equations, for example for maths or chemistry, but I have friends who use larger cue cards to write down a whole section of a topic (like Ethics & philosophy) and that works really well for them. This makes it easier for you to test how much you know.

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Recently I have found a website, theorganisedstudent, that does helpful free printables. I use the study schedule, study plan and topics to study sheet, this will make sure I am managing my time effectively and that I know what and how I am going to revise and at what time.

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There are useful websites too, memrise and quizlet are the ones I use most often for either french or psychology.

Tips:

  • Take breaks. After about 2 hours or less, take a little break- do some exercise and relax for a bit. Take longer breaks too, to meet up with friends or do a hobby.
  • Reward yourself. After you’ve revised a topic, eat some of your favourite food to reward yourself or go and do something you love doing.
  • Invest in some stationary. I love stationary, it not only does making your notes colourful and pretty but helps you with visualising too and it can make study sessions more enjoyable.

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  • Try out different methods and see which one you like best, people learn differently: either visually, through sound or by being physically involved. Try making up a song to help you remember or by going somewhere like Stratford-upon-avon if you’re studying Shakespeare.

Good luck with your studying and I hope some of this information helps!

If you find you are getting stressed coming up to your exams, try  reading this post to see if it helps.

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Beating the Monday blues

Advice

Mondays can often be a day that nobody likes, the start of a brand new week with goals to accomplish. People simply don’t want to have to go to work/school or exercise, however we do need to do these things. So here are a few tips on how I try to stay motivated, they might work for you to.

Day to day Life:

Read some quotes: occasionally you might ask yourself ‘ why am i doing this?’, and thats ok because occasionally we all have these days. Sometimes you just need to be reminded and some good quotes can help inspire you. here are a couple of my favourites:

‘Every morning you have two choices: continue to sleep with your dreams or get up and chase them’ 

‘No matter how you feel; Get up, Dress up, show up and never give up’

Just remind yourself of all the positives and how good you may feel once you’ve accomplished the goal and been more productive.

Fitness:

Keeping up your fitness and doing exercise is something which can be pushed to the side; the ‘but I’m too busy’ or ‘ill do it later’ mode kicks in. I often have those moments too when you just think but I don’t have enough time, something I have found recently is that there is enough time it just depends on weather you make time for it.

 

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A way I try to stay motivated for this is by time managing, I will use a schedule to make sure I schedule time for it. For example; I’ll make sure I wake up earlier to do a workout or I’ll plan in that cycle ride at the weekend. A good website for a weekly study schedule (or you can use it as a schedule in general) is TheOrganisedStudent, they have really good free printables.

Healthy eating:

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We can all get tempted by the not-so-healthy foods and its hard to avoid it. The best way for me is just to keep your goal in mind. Although, I’m personally a big lover for healthy foods  like salad anyway. If you do fancy one of your favourite foods like pizza, try adding a side of salad so you are getting a balanced diet- you’re still eating healthily just make sure you don’t do this all of the time!

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Another way to help is ,again, by planning. If you plan your meals over the week you will feel much more motivated and not tempted to order that take away for just having something easy because you can’t think of anything to cook. If you are stuck have a look on pinterest for some amazing dishes.

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Would you like to see a post on healthy food?

I hope you found some of these tips helpful. Please comment any other motivational tips to help others beat the Monday blues!