No Rain No Flowers

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Hello, Hope you are all okay!

So yesterday was world mental health day so I thought I would discuss some ways I deal with any anxieties and about why it’s so good to talk to each other about how we feel and be open about it. Mental health shouldn’t be a taboo topic as it is so common and talking about it is one of the best ways to help people with mental illnesses.

So one of the best ways to make yourself happier is to surround yourself with positive motivational people who support you and are always there for you. Make an effort to speak to these people often; with good friends you don’t need therapists.

Another way to feel less anxious is to look after yourself! Make sure you get enough sleep, eat a balanced diet and make enough time for things you like doing. Exercise is also good for relieving stress; even just a small walk around the block can really help.


I have always been quite an anxious person, I wouldn’t say I have anxiety but I’ve always worried too much about things I shouldn’t have to worry about. And through those times I tend to use an app called ‘calm’ and it really does help. Having calming music or having something to basically remind you to breathe really helps. So if ever feeling a bit panicky I would I highly recommend using it.

Life is tough. It’s stressful. It’s annoying. It can be overwhelming. There are times we all get a bit down and anxious and even if you don’t have a diagnosed mental illness it’s still good to do these sorts of things or whatever works for you and makes you feel calm and happy.

So I’ve titled this post ‘No Rain, No Flowers’. this phrase is so true, without some negatives, some failures and some unhappy moments there wont be anything good, you wont be happy and succeed. Its good to remember that in the difficult times because you know you won’t be unhappy forever; there will be flowers.

Failure is something I’ve had to battle and continue to, its something I’ve had such a massive fear of when in reality the little failures we make make us who we are, help us to grow and better ourselves.

 

Overall love yourself! You are always enough because there is no one else like you and if you’re ever feeling down or anxious about anything talk to friends and family or anyone that makes you feel loved.

I hope you liked this chatty post about mental health and happiness. Please fell free to leave a comment and please like and follow to read future posts! 🙂

(All photos are from a walk around Kingston lacy)

(What I’m wearing: topshop teal crop top, vintage striped blazer (you can find similar on ASOS), topshop Jamie jeans, vans)

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Happy New Year!

Advice

2016 has been a great year despite the many losses of amazing celebrities. But now its time to welcome in a hopefully incredible 2017! as the saying goes; tomorrow is the first page of a 365 day book, write a good one!

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Photo taken in New York

Most of us make resolutions to make the year even better and to create an even better ‘you’ but we also are not likely to actually keep these resolutions and I am definitely guilty of this! So here are a few ways we can stick to our goals:

First, I am investing in a planner! This is probably something everyone does to be able to schedule and keep up with important plans throughout the year. But I particularly want to get a bigger planner this year that I will actually use so that I can manage my time more effectively. I have never been good at time management but with my exams in the summer of 2017, mapping out my time is going to be very important; I don’t want to be stressed out with the fact ‘I haven’t scheduled enough revision’ or ‘I haven’t written a blog post’ or any of the above. The planner I have got this year is the ‘gold marble diary’ on Oliver Bonus that I got in the sale (money saving may be a resolution haha) -which you can get here.

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Another resolution I’m going to try and achieve next year is to have fitness routine that I am actually going to stick to. I know that a lot of peoples’ goals are to ‘lose weight’ or ‘to drop a dress size’ and a lot of people don’t keep up with this goal by the time May rolls around, a way I’m going to try to actually stick to a routine as by scheduling when I will have time for a workout in my planner and by doing a form of exercise I  enjoy doing so i am more motivated. At the moment I do exercise but it’s more in occasional bursts rather than sticking to a routine so that I really feel the results of feeling healthier, stronger and more flexible. So I will do exercise such as yoga, dance cardio and cycling because this is what I enjoy whilst being challenging enough and potentially giving me the results I need. You can tick off those days that you’ve done any form of exercise in the yearly overview section of your planner, this way you can look back at the end and realise how much effort you are putting in and how much you can improve and weather you need to mix up your routine.

Also if one of your goals is to lose weight (although I am by no means a fitness expert) you need to break down that goal so that you know HOW you are going to achieve that goal. Break it down into you food plan; Are you having a balance diet? Are you eating too much etc. and plan out how you will improve your eating because that is an important part of achieving that goal. Than break it down into exercise; How much do you do now? How much time do you have to do exercise etc. Make sure you do research on those goals too so you can really achieve it and more.

I hope you all have an amazing 2017 and a new post will be up in the new year! I really want to work on my blog next year, what kind of posts do you want to see?

Happy New Year!!!!

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Photos taken with a GoPro and iPhone 7…

Link to Boxing Day blog here…

 

 

practice interviews?

Advice, Lifestyle

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if you live in the uk you will probably have to do a practice interview at some point, its not something all schools do but it was in hindsight a great experience so that you can get feedback and know what an interview is like before doing it ‘for real’. I know a lot of people (including myself) get anxious coming to to an interview even if it is ‘just a practice’. Here are my life lessons (haha) from having a practice interview and other advise I’ve been told from employers:

  1. first, breathe! if you’re anxious and this counts for any situation, breathing is always the best way to calm yourself down. For me if i know am overly nervous i know that i am more likely to go blank if they ask me a question and i won’t think clearly so breathing really helps to get out of that mindset.
  2. act confident, interviewers like to see that you turn up with a smile on your face, good posture, a firm handshake and seem like you know what you’re talking about.
  3. I speak really quickly so a definite tip to my future self is to take it a little slower next time!
  4. Have a career\ life goal in mind. The most my practice interviewer wanted to know was what I am planning to do with my life, that i can set goals for myself and how i am going to achieve those goals.
  5. If you a student really take all the opportunities you can, i know that there are so many people who come to having an interview and have nothing to say for what they had done at school and what responsibilities that had taken on. This could be work experience, volunteering, helping out the school in some way or generally getting involved in anything your interested in

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I am by no means an expert in career advise, i have only done a practice interview but this may help those who are about to have there interviews.

For our school we had to find a smart outfit to wear so all the boys wore suits and girls wore dresses or suits. It was a good experience as my interviewer gave me advise at the end and thoroughly went through my cv as to what was good and what i could add or remove.

what advise do you have for interviews?

have you ever had a bad interview experience?

10 things that make me happy

Advice, Favourites, Lifestyle

Happiness is so important to everyone, it is the natural objective everyone strives for; to simply be happy. Often it can be the simplest of things or activity, everyone has that different thing that makes them smile each day. After being inspired by Victoria’s (Inthefrow.com) latest blog post, Here i thought i would share the 10 things that make me happy.

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1. Art:

Seeing a beautiful piece of artwork or sculpture or something beautiful someone has made really inspires me or really getting the time to create something myself and creating something makes me so happy.

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This is my newest piece of work; painting just makes me feel so relaxed and I get really inspired by people. 

2. Candles and cozy days:

On a rainy day when I’ve got time for myself, my favourite thing to do is snuggle up in a warm blanket with a couple of candles burning. Not only does the smell make me feel relaxed but having the warm fuzzy glow adds to the cozy atmosphere which makes me feel comforted and content. Getting to wear those new pyjamas and that favourite cozy jumper just makes me feel so happy knowing that a lot of the jobs are done and that i can have time to myself maybe to watch a film or relax with a good book.

3. Bonfires

On a chilly evening which is all the time in England, having a bonfire with my family and friends makes me feel so happy. Im often sat with a hot mug of soup or hot chocolate wearing a cozy jumper having a good time, sat with the dogs, having heart to heart conversations about anything and everything.

4. Music /festivals

Im writing this as I just got back from Camp Bestival and I had the best time. I also went to Larmer Tree festival this year in which Tom Odell was playing, he was amazing and it had an incredible atmosphere. At Camp Bestival we were at the front singing and dancing along to Jess Glynn and budding musicians on the stage. Even whilst I’m doing homework at home I will listen to some good music and it kind of takes the stresses away and helps with motivation.

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This is me on the worlds biggest bouncy castle with my friends- had an amazing time and yes, I know, we did join all the 5 year olds haha!

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5. forest walks

Even in the rain getting time to clear my mind in the forest whilst walking my two dogs means I can clear my head and look at the beauty of nature around me. My pets make me feel happy too which is an added bonus.

6. New interior items

I’ve always loved moving my room around or creating something new for my room doing a bit of DIY or purchasing a new item. I love getting to see a look coming together and thinking of new ideas of how it will look; so getting that cozy blanket or new item and seeing it fit in with the rest of the scheme makes me happy.

7. Friends and family

These are the people who are always there for me. If I’m having a good or a bad day they are always the first people I want to share it with and they either share in my excitement or will help cheer me up. As I have already mentioned, I have just come back from a festival and that was with my family and close friends and it was great sharing these memories and inside jokes.

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8. A cuppa tea

hmmm…  a cup of tea when it gets a little chillier or when you get up in the morning or to relax is like a little piece of heaven. It means something for me to look forward to in the morning and just tastes good ; my favourites are english breakfast, rose lemonade and a new find- the best of both (normal with green tea).

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Enjoying a nice warm drink on a chilly evening at Camp Bestival!

9. Trying something new

Trying something new whether that means an activity like going on a zip wire and stepping out of my comfort zone or finding a lovely new eatery or shop makes me feel happy. A shop particularly if they have beautiful packaging! but indulging in food, clothes or an activity makes me feel happier and stepping outside of my comfort zone improves my self confidence too as it can bring a proud feeling.

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10. Fitness

After I’ve done a workout or done some yoga, gone for a bike ride etc… I feel so much happier and healthier. I no longer feel that wave grouchiness when I get up and feel ready to take on the day ahead. It improves confidence as I feel so much more alive and no longer like the zombie when I woke up. My recent favourite workout has been the sweaty betty bodybysimone dance cardio, it consists of 5 sections; warm up, cardio, upper body, lower body and cool down.

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After a good meditation and yoga session in the zen den!

What makes you happy?

please let me know what activities and little pleasures you like to indulge in that make you happy, everyones different and will find happiness in different things.

on another note…

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I died my hair lavender, what do you think?

 

How I deal with stress

Advice, Lifestyle

Everyone has moments of feeling stressed, feeling anxious or under pressure. Stress could happen because of exams, many year 11 students are currently sitting their GCSEs, or from work or from situations at home. People deal with these feelings in different ways; some deal with it better than others.

I am definately not an expert on coping with it but I have picked up a few tips that i thought i would share. Some of these tips may be super simple but they are things you don’t realise will help when you are in a confusing, flustered mode of stress.

First, this is the thing that most would recommend for stress- just BREATHE. the most simplest thing, the act we do all the time without giving it a second thought; breathing. Taking deep breaths not only distract you from stressing but are also proven to stop adrenaline which then causes the fight or flight response. Breathing and dealing with your stresses will mean you can have a clear mindset and make better decisions.

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Secondly, whenever I’m stressed I will go for a walk with the dog. It gives you time to think about the situation, have some peaceful time to yourself and your doing exercise which is a massive bonus. Walking and doing other forms of exercise controls the stress hormone and puts you in a better mood. It will also lead to better sleep because your body is more worn out and wanting to sleep.

Write out a ‘To-do list’. This will organise your thoughts and puts you in a better mood getting to tick off each task. This will reduce stress because you’re getting the tasks done that you’ve been stressing about, seeing it on paper should make you feel more organised about the situation and feel ready to take them on.

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Lastly, take breaks. Read. Do yoga. Create something. Do something for yourself. Weather that means baking a cake and being indulgent to just taking a step back; going for a run or doing something you love. Although work/ school and other issues are important its equally as important to look after yourself so take some time each day to do something for YOU.

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I hope this post has helped you in some way in dealing with stress, its something that effects us all particularly in the modern day stresses of day-to-day life. So breathe, go for a walk, organise and take breaks; give it a go and one of these might work for you.

How do you deal with stress? please leave your comments below and try some of these methods out, I’d love to know if they worked for you. Everyone is different and everyone has different ways of dealing with stress.

some good websites ; the help guide , skills you need, health

(photos taken at Stourhead house and gardens, Wiltshire)

what I’m wearing: